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Dear ,
During the last month, talking to different people and different groups, I realized that there was one common theme: exhaustion. Not really a physical one, but rather a mental and emotional exhaustion. The image of exhausted souls came up for me.
The underlying reasons were different, but what stroke me most was that people keep hiding it, that people keep it to themselves. It does not cross their minds to communicate, because there is this belief “It is only me feeling like this. And if it is only me, it must be my fault. It must be because I am not good enough, I am not strong enough. Others can handle it, others have their posts on FB and Instagram where I can see them smiling and feeling good, obviously having a great life. So, it is just me.”
Coming together in a circle it became clear pretty quickly: “No, it is not just me!” I would say around 70% of the people I have talked to in this last month, shared a feeling of “it is too much”, “I can’t handle this anymore”, “I need to find a solution”.
Whenever I am holding space for a group, I usually hear: “It feels so good to open up, to see, I am not the only one. It is so comforting to be listened to and to listen to others. We should do this more often. Why didn’t we think about it before?”
Whatever we are going through, when someone is holding space for us, something can already start shifting. In this togetherness we understand that we are not alone, that we are not weaker or less capable than others, that we are just humans, going through similar processes and experiences, that we all carry wounds which are easily triggered. In a group of friends or like minded people we can show our vulnerability, we can open our hearts to each other finding support and comfort.
For the month of October, I wish you that you may connect with others, whenever you feel exhausted. That you can find fellow humans with whom you feel safe and who allow you to breathe and that also you may be ready to be there for them in the same way. No smart sayings or advice – just being and listening. It is through this opening up in togetherness, that new solutions can be found and new creative ways of dealing with what at the moment weighs heavy on so many.
In the spirit of love and reconciliation
Ursula |
