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Dear ,
While thinking about the topic of this newsletter and what I wanted to share with you, I remembered that I had started last year (2023) writing about “good resolutions”.
At that time my question had been: “How would it be if we started the year without any good resolutions at all, but with just one simple curious question: “Who is this person, this SELF, I am living with my whole life and yet never really got to know? It is just one simple question, but it could be the most powerful and transforming question we have ever asked.”
Well, at the end of 2023 I got in touch with a new way of working with constellations that supports us in finding the answer to exactly this question. I experienced it myself and I am also integrating it now in my own practice.
Understanding that there is nothing to change, but everything to discover allows us to approach life and its challenges in a totally different way. And I want to share my own experience with you, just as a simple example.
I was never a gym person. But as my husband and my daughter go there regularly and with an admirable discipline since years, I often had felt I “had to” do something for my body too. Yet, for me it was just boring and all the halfhearted attempts to join them, had ended up in frustration.
After the new constellation experience I had last year, things started to shift. Slightly, almost unnoticed, I could see old patterns coming up and leaving, simply by becoming aware of them. And like in a silent communication my body started giving me gentle messages that it wanted to feel itself more.
So one day I just told my husband: “I will join you next week. I come with you to the gym.”
Of course, self-sabotaging thoughts came up and I allowed them to voice themselves and listened to “I don’t have time, I have so much work!” – “It will be boring; we’ve tried this already!” – “Doesn’t it look stupid if a 64-year-old woman goes to the gym?” – “What if I look ridiculous?”.
I listened, embraced them, and gave priority to my body and the new connection I had with it.
Now it feels like a gift to myself. It is something new to feel the different muscles, the energy, my limits, and my potential. And although for someone who has never been to the gym I am actually pretty “good”, it is not about progress or competition, not even with myself. It is about feeling my limits, learning to listen, and sometimes encouraging my body that “we can do a little more”. But it is also about saying “no” when I realize that I need to rest and a break, without feeling bad about it. And besides all this it is a precious time that I share with my husband deepening our bond.
I am more and more convinced that we do NOT need “good resolutions” to tell ourselves where we are not good enough and what we need to change.
What makes a real and lasting difference is the re-connection with ourselves, the loving reintegration with our parts that have gone lost or were not cherished on our journey during this life.
I am wishing you a wonderful month of February in the spirit of love and reconciliation
Ursula |
