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Dear ,
First of all let me express my gratitude to all of you who followed me during the last year through my newsletter, FB group, Telegram channel and YouTube. I am so grateful for your appreciation and support. I would not be who and where I am without you.
On this first day of a new year, what could be a better topic to talk about than “Good Resolutions”.
It is a time when many of us decide to stop smoking, eat less, change bad habits, leave unhealthy relationships, start with the gym and so on, and so on. But these good intentions often don’t last more than a couple of months or sometimes only weeks.
Why does this happen? Thinking about it, what came to my mind was the word “expectations”. We expect that one simple date, this first of January, would make it easier to change what we were not able to change during the 365 days before.
It is as if we expect THIS ONE DAY to be like an automatic switch that creates miracles.
Would we ask our friend or beloved to change a “bad” habit on the first of January? Would we go and tell them “Now it is time to change! From today on you go to the gym!”? How would they react? Do you think this would be viable? I believe that no one really would ever try this out, right?
But this is exactly what we do with ourselves. We tell ourselves “It is not ok who you are, how you are, what you do or how you behave – you have to change!” And we wonder why it doesn’t work.
We forget that we are in a relationship with ourselves, as we are with anyone else around us. I don’t know who said it, but the truth is that the most important love story is with OUR SELF.
So how would it be if we started 2023 without any good resolutions at all, but with just one simple curious question: “Who is this person, this SELF, I am living with my whole life and yet never really got to know?”
It is just one simple question, but it could be the most powerful and transforming question we have ever asked.
Why? Because it could lead us to understanding all the reasons why we are still smoking or eating too much, why we don’t manage to take care of ourselves properly, why we continue to sabotage ourselves and so on.
It could be the first step to get to know this wonderful being that shares our life since the moment of conception. It could be the first step of a magical journey together.
And at the end of 2023 we eventually might notice that we have achieved everything we wanted without one single “New Year Resolution”, by simply falling in love with our SELF.
I am wishing you from the heart a blessed New Year full of love, growth and whatever you wish for yourself. May everything you encounter support you in becoming more and more who you are truly meant to be.
In the spirit of love and reconciliation
Ursula |
