Dear ,
March 2022 is the month of the final exams for my students. And the past weeks of them preparing their different presentations made me realize how heavy the word “exam” weighs on many people. So I decided to reflect a bit upon.
When we look up the word “exam” in the dictionary we find the following: “a test of a student's knowledge or skill in a particular subject“ and “a formal test that you must pass in order to earn a particular qualification or be allowed to do a particular job”.
Exams usually are focused on a certain result, something that is expected of us to deliver – and if we do not deliver what is expected, we fail. Everything is concentrated on the outcome and no matter who we are and where we come from and the possible different insights and reflections we might have regarding the exam material, often do not have any weight. Or we deliver what is expected or we fail. And failure could mean that we are looked down upon, criticized, judged, or laughed at. And sometimes it might be the end of a dream we had.
And this creates stress, sometimes such an amount of stress that our brain stops working, we have even more difficulties to memorize, to study, to concentrate. We concentrate so much on the outcome that we forget about the value of the content. Especially in schools we can observe that often from the beginning the focus is more on how to deliver the subject so that the students pass the exams than about the value of the individual learning processes. We classify in “good” and “bad” students or “passed” and “not passed”.
These experiences continue throughout our whole life and every new situation that we connect with a past traumatic exam experience can trigger us and bring us back to a frozen state that actually belongs to a time long gone.
What if we changed the meaning of “exam”? What if we allowed every student to focus on the “journey” rather than on the “outcome”? I believe that, allowing time and space to focus on the journey would lead to a beautiful and meaningful outcome including everything that has been integrated on the way.
We are all life’s students. And life never judges us, it never tells us that we’ve failed or not. It always gives us new opportunities to show what we have learned.
But yes, it confronts us with many exam situations, asking us “What have you learned from the past?” – “How do you apply the skills that you have acquired during the last years?” – “What have you integrated of the lessons that I have taught you?”
May you all allow yourself time and space to focus on the journey rather than the outcome.
I am wishing you a peaceful month of March and I am sending my best wishes in the spirit of love and reconciliation
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Weekend online workshop 07.+08. May 2022
We are living in times of deep change and transformation. Many of our familiar strategies don’t work anymore and we realize that it is time to find new ways of being with each other. Ways that lead to connection rather than separation, ways that allow us to find new solutions that come from a heart space.
This weekend workshop will give you the opportunity to experience what it means to connect from the heart and what is still blocking you from this connection.
“The gift of the ancestors”
4 online evening sessions – 3., 10., 17. and 24. May 2022
The spirit of our ancestors is present, they want us to live a happy life, to honour their life and death through us living our gifts and talents. Are you ready to engage with your family history and embrace their support in your life?
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Much love, Ursula
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