Dear ,
In the sessions with my clients I so often hear „I need to …..!“
“I need to change!”, “I need to stop doing this or that!”, “I need to speak up!”, “I need to love myself!”, “I need to accept who I am!” – and so on and so on.
My answer is always – “you do not need to do anything – but you are allowed to do everything!”
From the moment we are born we live in a world where others demand something from us. It starts very subtle, but soon it becomes tough. We need to behave, we need to get potty trained, we need to obey, we need to go to kindergarden and school, we need to learn and to perform – and the list goes on and on while we grow up and grow older.
And with all this we split more and more and we move away from our natural authentic being. As a consequence we develop all kind of issues, doubts, frustrations, etc. – and we reject ourselves more and more.
The real tragedy is that, because of this split, we start treating ourselves in the same way, continuously telling ourselves what “we need to do” or how we “need to be”.
In the end we have completely forgotten what we really WANT or who we really ARE, and we become beings who have forgotten that they were meant to be free.
Everything changes with changing only one word – with exchanging “need” through “allow”.
“Allow” creates awareness that it could be different, that there is a choice we can consciously make.
Take a moment and reflect upon the following sentences – feel the difference, and if you want, take a note of your experience.
I need to change - I am allowed to change
I need to stop being the victim - I am allowed to stop being the victim
I need to speak up - I am allowed to speak up
I need to love myself - I am allowed to love myself
I need to accept who I am - I am allowed to accept who I am
Where are the “NEEDS” in your life? And how would it feel to change them into “ALLOWS”?
May you allow yourself the power of this change.
I am sending my best wishes for a beautiful November in the spirit of love and reconciliation
Ursula
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