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Dear ,
In this year’s good wishes for a Happy New Year, I realized that something was different. There was one word popping up again and again – and this word was “HOPE”.
To one of those messages I replied: “Thank you very much for your kind wishes, but I prefer to substitute the word “HOPE” with “TRUST”. And as always I go with "TRUST"into the New Year!”
Can you already feel the difference between these two? Let’s have a closer look together.
What does “HOPE” mean? It usually means that we expect a desired future to come. And more – we address our “HOPE” to God or other entity/ies, and we expect that they fix whatever needs to be fixed – the world, politics, our situation, our friends’ and family’s life, etc.
“HOPE” is always connected to an external condition. We hope that the situation outside will change in such a way that we can feel comfortable again. And with this attitude we constantly live in expectations.
And living in expectations has two main consequences.
First of all we make our well-being and our happiness depend on the occurrence of the desired scenario.
And second we focus our attention on what we are expecting, constantly looking for signs that the hoped-for state is beginning to occur.
Hoping that "Tomorrow will be better ...!" helps to bear the pain of today more easily, but it does not make the hoped-for future more probable.
And now let’s have a look at “TRUST”.
If we trust, we rely on getting along well with what is coming. We do not make ourselves depending on a desired external future. We rather accept the unknown and become active in what needs to be done day by day.
What is the consequence of this “TRUST”?
First of all we are much more independent from external factors because we do not rely on the fact that it will turn out well, but we trust that we will be able to cope with whatever the outcome is.
Second we don't have to exercise any control and thus, we save a lot of energy that we can put into creating our own safe space. And from this grounded position we will be much more able to understand and put into action what is needed in the respective situations.
With “HOPE” we live in a future that we don’t know and we do not co-create. We have to surrender to bigger forces, to something that might or might not happen.
With “TRUST” we focus on the presence, we focus on our internal development, on our connection with others and the world (physical and spiritual) around us.
With “HOPE” we will most likely be frustrated and desperate if things don’t happen as we wished for.
With “TRUST” we will be able to see gifts in difficult situations and to hold on to our path even if we don’t know the outcome yet.
With “TRUST” we will be people who “KNOW” that there is the light at the end of the tunnel and that every life situation is something we can grow with. And we will be able to be a support to others when their “HOPE” has been disappointed.
But of course “TRUST” is something we need to engage with, we need to take responsibility and action. We need to be ready for the change within ourselves that we want to see in the outer world.
Are you ready to “TRUST”? Can you feel the power and the confidence that comes from this word?
I wish you from my heart a 2021 in which you learn to TRUST yourself, that you will be able to do the right things at the right moment. And to TRUST life that it might not give you what you want but always what you need in this moment in time.
Sending my beat wishes in the spirit of love and reconciliation
Ursula
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